S. E. X.

Sex.

It's an important part of a healthy adult relationship, and yet, we're still afraid to talk about it. I want to talk about how obesity has affected me, personally. I don't want to project my feelings onto anyone else, but I can't help but assume I'm not the only one who has these feelings.

As I've gained weight over the years I've noticed a few things. I almost always insist on lights-off sex. Sometimes, it takes extra long for me to "finish". The biggest thing I've realized is that my weight inhibits creativity. I told my husband that when I'm on top, I feel like a flailing walrus. I get winded, my legs cramp up, etc. I don't know about you, but lying under a flailing walrus is not my idea of a good time. Sex is messy, and it's understood that there will be noises, and fluids all sorts of interesting, yet unexpected, occurrences.

However.
There's something somewhat. . .turnoff-ish (not a word) about the sound of my own flesh slapping against my thighs.

Does your weight keep you from feeling sexy? Do you think your obesity is limiting your sexual creativity?

When was the last time YOU had sex with the lights ON?

Coming tomorrow. . .
Photos!